A man who lost both his wife and oldest son in a plane crash is speaking out and sharing his experience, and as difficult as it is to read, I can’t recommend it enough. It’s giving me chills and is making my eyes watery, yet at the same time, it’s incredibly inspiring.
Commercial aviation in the United States is incredibly safe, to the point that it’s almost incomprehensible to see a major crash with fatalities. Any sort of a loss is challenging, but what made the American Eagle situation especially tragic is the number of children who were on the flight, as there were 11 young figure skaters returning from a competition in Wichita (ICT).
Obviously a plane crash is initially worst for those onboard. If it’s any comfort, at least we know they didn’t suffer for long, since this was a sudden collision. But after the initial shock, death is hardest for those who are left behind, who feel immeasurable loss.
I can’t even imagine what a sinking feeling one must have when their loved one is involved in a plane crash. So along those lines, a man named Doug Lane, who lost both his wife and older son on AA5342, is now sharing a series of blog posts about the immediate aftermath of the accident. So far he has published the following four posts (thanks to Mark for flagging this):
- “The Night It Happened”
- “The Day After”
- “Finding Connection”
- “Finding Competence and Compassion (Part 1)”
Clearly there are more posts coming, though we don’t yet know how many. I suspect Doug probably doesn’t even know yet, and is just sharing his experience and seeing how things go.
I think anyone who has suffered loss can relate to his general feelings. But I can’t even fathom the level of hopelessness one feels when they start to hear a plane went down and they believe a loved one was on it, but have no additional details.
It’s also fascinating to hear how one handles this situation, in terms of contacting the airline, trying to get information, getting to the crash site, etc.
Doug has a link on his website asking people to consider making a donation to the Christine Conrad Lane Memorial Dog Park. Doug’s wife was a huge dog lover, who helped lots of rescue dogs find new forever families. In honor of what would’ve been Christine’s 51st birthday, the Christine Conrad Lane Memorial Dog Park was commemorated in her hometown of Barrington, Rhode Island.
While the park is operating in a basic form, the goal is to create a community space with permanent fencing, a walking path, and 67 boulders, one for each person lost in the mid-air collision.
What a lovely tribute that is to her. I just made a donation, and I’d encourage others to consider doing so as well, if inclined.
Bottom line
A man who lost both his wife and son in the American Eagle crash at DCA is writing a series of blog posts about his experience in the immediate aftermath of the accident. This is a situation that is difficult to even comprehend, and he shares his experience in such a raw and vulnerable way.
A great solo travel tip spotted this week on One Mile at a Time.
